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Another day, another exhausting battle.

The attorney quietly holds the door to the courtroom open as you leave.

Your hands are shaky and clammy. Your best outfit wrinkled after hours of harrowing testimony.

This process is draining, demoralizing, and, worst of all, there is no end in sight.

All you wanted was a simple divorce.

Everyone told you that the pain would be over quickly, but they were wrong.

What you hoped would be an amicable separation has become anything but.

Every single topic seems to become a point of endless contention.

Your Ex is out for blood.

It has become apparent that the person you married has no intention of letting this arrive at a peaceful resolution.

Every time the mail arrives, you wince as you find yet another useless motion filed against you.

The “win at all costs” game your Ex is playing seems to have no bounds.

Now your children are being used against you.

Just when you thought they couldn’t sink any lower, they have gotten your kids involved.

Knowing that your children are the most important thing in your life, your Ex becomes laser-focused on depriving you of your relationship with them.

Through a series of lies, misrepresentations, and twisting of the facts – the truth is manipulated to paint you in the worst possible light.

Your kids are your heartbeat, your whole world…

…Without them, you’re not sure how you would go on.

Friends and family try to offer help, but none of them can provide any real path forward.

Navigating day-to-day life has become an insurmountable task. This feeling of hopelessness is suffocating.

But there is another way.

Imagine waking up one morning and realizing that you slept through the night, for the first time since you can remember.

Your children don’t have to feel torn between their parents; they are equally loved for who they are, whomever they’re with.

No more constant court appearances. A job that you can focus on. A home that is comfortable and welcoming.

And hope. Hope for what you were afraid you would never have again; a future.

It is possible.

Let me help you end the chaos.

Move beyond the loneliness, powerlessness, and feelings of being manipulated.
Learn to take control of your relationships and start living the life you deserve.

Hi, I’m Natalie.

And I’m here to help you through the nightmare of your high conflict divorce.

I know the helplessness of feeling like your family is crumbling and the fear of not being able to protect your kids.

I am here to listen, teach, and guide you to where YOU want to be when this divorce is over.

What a High Conflict Divorce
Coach can Do for You – Services

Specialized Coaching

For those times you need help with a quick problem, usually
something that takes only a little guidance to fix.

Kickass Coaching Program

You will never know how strong you are
until being strong
is the only choice you have.

Whoopass Coaching Program

If you feel manipulated
and stuck by your Ex,
help is available.

Stay-a-Badass Coaching

This program is for you if… you are in the middle of a costly, win-lose, children-caught-in-the-middle power play.

Badass Co-Parenting 101

Find balance and cooperation
in your co-parenting.

How do you know if you are in a high
conflict divorce?

In a standard divorce, people have grown apart for various reasons and decide they
would rather live the rest of their lives apart rather than married.

It's Just Not Amicable
The couple cannot resolve their differences in a business-like manner, and they create a very costly divorce that damages the walked-on ex and the children.
One Party Dominates the Process
One party is the “Controlling Person” whose goal is to achieve a win-lose outcome, while the partner seeks a win-win scenario. The controller does not care what it takes to win, including destroying the other party.
Money and Power Turn Into Dangerous Weapons
There is almost always money and/or power involved in the family dynamic, which delights the controlling party. She/he sees it all as a game to win, win, win.
You Tried to Hurt ME!
The “Controlling Person” feels he/she is continuously being wronged and therefore JUSTIFIED in destroying everyone involved.

Testimonials

In a standard divorce, people have grown apart for various reasons
and decide they would rather live the rest of
their lives apart rather than married.

1.5 years in family court and just short of 85k; I had to ask myself; how did it get this far and what role did I play in all of this?

The truth is, my communications were scrutinized and judged based on performance; which ultimately placed my parental rights in jeopardy.

I realized that my overly conscientious approach worked against me. My communications with my ex put me into fight, flight or freeze mode. Paralyzing me to the point where I delayed opening them, and had agonizing repetitive thoughts over my response. Was it too short, Too much, Too firm, Too nice, not nice enough? etc. I continuously took the bate.

With Natalie’s coaching, I gained clarity, self awareness, and important skills necessary to communicate effectively in high conflict situations. I am now able to express the needs of our children effectively. Her past experience in the court system provides her with multiple perspectives; from multiple lenses.

Later, I went on to represent myself pro se against a malpractice attorney and won my case. I believe Natalie’s coaching contributed to presenting myself, and my case effectively.

Thank you Natalie! Knowing you are only a phone call away is a weight lifted off of my shoulder.

The number one reason I would refer people to Natalie is she has the ability to hear and see things as they were really occurring, not as my Ex was attempting to convince the judge they were, and helped me [create a strategy to stay ahead of her so she could not lie in order to “win.”

“Many men find themselves in traumatic relationships and need extra help during divorce. Natalie taught me to get my story heard without being defensive through her knowledge of the legal system, the professionals involved, and being able to see the big picture. She helped me to see how best to approach my divorce [at each stage] so it would benefit me and my children and to do so in a confident manner.”

“I feel very fortunate to have discovered Natalie. She is very passionate about helping people who are suffering from the effects of parental alienation. Through her experience and understanding, she has been able to provide me with the tools and guidance necessary to help me best reconnect with my children.”

Don’t Wait for Divorce To Take
Your Life Away From You.

Make the future you want today!

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Natalie Van Note, LPC, CFI, IMBA | Licensed Professional Counselor